To people who are still in your twenties, now is the time to make changes, follow your heart, follow your dreams.
To people who are in your thirties, you are still not too late. Know what you want, make that change fast or simply, do it now!
When my age still starts with the digit 1, i thought that life simply comprises the following;
- From 0-22 years old : Study really really hard and aim to graduate from the local university, do not even think of anything else other than getting that A grade all the way (probably only starts at 7 years old, but hey, academic in the kindergarten also proved to be as important too!)
- From 22-65 years old : To find a job as fast as possible because employees are going to judge you if you took too long to get a job, hopefully someone would employ you even though you have no experience and is just applying for an entry job (i guess everyone have been through this stage of being inexperienced? But i guess you still got to have to have at least 2 years of experience when though you are only applying for that entry level job at just $2000 a month). And after landing a job successfully (regardless of whether that is your preferred job or something relevant to what you studied), you will just have to follow through (because you can’t just simply stop because of all that bills, and if you were to change the industry, you gotta start from entry level, and that means $2000/month again). Next step would be to get married and apply for the flat (oh don’t forgot about BTO, its all about planning 5 years ahead isn’t it?) and work even harder because you have a 30 year loan to pay off. But….. it really isn’t that bad if you are really doing something that you have utmost interest and passion in, and if you do really well at your job that allows you to propel your salary to $10k within the first 10 years of working (but of course you have to put in all the hours and effort). And subsequently, when you have children, there is a commitment in terms of money, to be able to provide for the family. And this is the time when the choice of making major changes to your life decreases so rapidly, you may have just shrug off that idea. Life is already hard enough, why do you still want to make major changes that put yourself in a risky position to be judged and slaughtered? Fast forward to 65 years old, where life may seem to slow down and you may be thinking, ‘hey, maybe i can take a break and withdraw my money out from my CPF’. But really, that is the time where you may be too weak to travel and enjoy life as much as when you are in your twenties and thirties. And with the rising cost of living and in the midst of planning for retirement, you may want to reduce all the extensive spendings and unnecessary expenses.
- From 65 years old – the day when you pass on : I really have no idea because i didn’t thought that far. But what i can visualise would be that life would be slow. And there really isn’t much excitement in it. Family would be a major part in this phase of life.
Thus, back to topic, this is really what i thought would be the ‘ideal’ life that majority of people are going through. The way of life that was planned out the moment we are born into this world. I never questioned this way of life until i finally step into it step by step, realising and pondering why is this made that way. Questioning myself and the society is the major process that kept circling in my head the moment i found myself stuck in this cycle, wondering if this is really the fate that i was born into. However, me being the one who always question life and philosophy, being the one who always disagree with everyone when everyone agree, and agreeing when everyone disagree, i naturally want to change it, or simply not dive too deep in before I’m trapped. Does anybody feels like this conventional or ‘ideal’ way of life is like the quick sand? Well, i definitely feel so.
Moving on, being in your twenties definitely gives you some advantages. Because primarily;
- YOU ARE STILL YOUNG! (this is very important to note)
- You do not have commitments yet (but this may not apply to everyone)
- You are still at the early phase of your life and career cycle, which means that you would not be judged that harshly by people around you or potential employees that you may have to explain to in the future
Making that change is necessary if you think that life could be so much better if you would just do something about it. After all, isn’t it easier and happier to do something that you are genuinely passionate about instead of doing something that you think you could accomplish, but does not enjoy a single second of being in it.
Ultimately, you are the only decision maker (when you have no commitments yet) in your life and it concerns you and your well being, so isn’t it totally reasonable to treat yourself better and live everyday to the fullest for yourself. Before making that major change, make sure that you are really passionate about it, because this is not the time to make mistake anymore. Changes that happen too frequently are just bad decisions, and it reflect badly on your character, in addition, time waits for no one (so which is the confirmed one?).
Keep your aim straight and dash towards it at full speed. At no time you will realise your full potential worth (even though no one recognise you or give you a chance). Just keep doing what you are good at and do not steer away halfway (aka do not give up)! To end off my post, i would like to quote what Taylor Swift said at the Grammys, “But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going, you will look around and you will know it was you and the people who love you who put you there, and that will be the greatest feeling in the world.” (OMG i just adore her so much!). So, do not let that Kanye in your life brings you down, instead just keep moving forward and you will see the light soon.